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In Pursuit of Happiness

PrintA few days ago, I had one person asking me for my wisdom and guidance concerning a relationship problem with a co-worker, and on the very same day, I was dealing with a miscommunication with one of my co-workers in the orchestra. As humans, we’re in relationship with so many people on so many different levels. One of the most important facts we can remember, is that relationships exist between two people and only two people. We all have people in our lives who love us as well as those who may not have such loving thoughts toward us. Have you ever stopped to wonder why this is? There is in fact a reason for this phenomenon.

Often our disagreements with friends, family, and co-workers come down to miscommunication, discerning what is true and what is not true. The problem between the co-worker and myself mentioned in the preceding paragraph concerned something she thought she heard me say several years ago. Since the time of that conversation, her demeanor changed toward me and I finally asked her about it. Fortunately she told me her truth, but her truth wasn’t the truth. Our misunderstanding has cleared, primarily because I didn’t react and I told the truth with love and compassion.

Believe me, the skill I used in handling that one situation hasn’t come through wisdom, at least not the way we typically think of wisdom. The work and research I’ve been involved with since the summer has been primarily in the realm of consciousness. It’s a little complicated to go into in a blog, but I’ll try and explain it briefly. Consciousness can be described as the all-pervasive universal energy field of infinite power and dimension beyond time (non-linear). The infinite field of consciousness is All Present, All Powerful, and includes All of Existence. Consciousness is equally present within, without, and beyond – recording all events, all history, and all evolutionary patterns. Every thought is known and recorded forever. There are no secrets, nothing hidden, nor can it be. Everyone lives in the public domain.

One way to think of consciousness is much like gravity. We know it’s there, but we can’t see it. Gravity can be measured in terms of weight. Consciousness can also be measured through kinesiology, a well-established science, based on the testing of an all-or-nothing muscle response stimulus.Kinesiology measures truth and falsehood, (absence of truth) on a logarithmic scale from 1 to 1,000. Consciousness knows only truth because only truth has actual existence.This ground breaking research can be discovered for yourself in Dr. David Hawkins book, Power versus Force.

Everything can be measured using kinesiology because everything is consciousness. We all live in the same world, but we each have an individual view of it – so we each create the world differently – and in turn, the universe responds differently to each of us. There isn’t one correct way of seeing the universe – every viewpoint has a foundation in Reality. It’s never the viewpoint itself, but the ego attachment we have to that viewpoint – feeling our way of understanding is the one that is truly correct. This is where conflicts develop. Conflict is the inevitable consequence of mankind’s inability to distinguish the false from the truth.

One way to approach these individual views of Reality is to think of each person looking at life through a different lens on the spectrum of color. If I happen to be looking through a blue lens while someone I’m in relationship with looks at life through a red lens, we most likely won’t see life in the same way. It’s not a “better than – worse than” paradigm – just different. From the basis of kinesiology, we each have a different number on the logarithmic scale I mentioned above. Imagine a teeter-totter where the number 200 is the balance point. Above 200 the teeter-totter goes one way and below 200, the teeter-totter goes the opposite way. Half of all Americans are either above 200 or below 200. Now here’s either the good news or the bad news. Those who calibrate below 200 can be thought of as the “problem” – while those who calibrate above 200 are the “solution.” Another way in which to think about this tipping point are those who calibrate below 200 look for happiness outside themselves, in a material way. Those who calibrate above 200 look for happiness within themselves, in a spiritual way. On the plus side of 200, people are more selfless. On the lesser side of 200, people are more selfish. If what I’ve written so far sounds fascinating, you’re probably on the plus side of 200. If not, know that the ego below 200 sees truth as the enemy.

The specific number we calibrate at comes with birth. We’re already born with a number and research really doesn’t know why. On average, the most we can change our number is only 5 points. Evolution is slow. It took 2,000 years for humanity to raise its overall consciousness level from 100 to 207, the average number of consciousness today. One of the reasons I like to look at these different levels as colors, is because life is so much more interesting in color. We need everyone, whatever their level for our consciousness to rise. Those who do calibrate below 200 are not able to calibrate consciousness. The ideal number for accuracy is someone in the mid-400’s.

Consciousness research shows that the higher the number, the greater the overall feeling of happiness is – Life is good! Those who calibrate below 200 have a 15 percent “happiness rate.” Those who calibrate between 200 and 300 have a 60 percent “happiness rate.” In 2005, there were only six people on the planet who calibrated above 600, what we commonly know as enlightenment. Our suffering is relieved by replacing falsehood with truth. A fascinating web site to explore is
Here you can explore all of this much deeper than what I can share now. It’s fascinating!

Returning to the conflict I mentioned at the beginning, before I did or said anything, I calibrated the person I was in conflict with to see if I could gain some insight. I discovered she happens to be well below 200, in the realm of force. I calibrate in the realm of power. Knowing this basic information informs me how best to deal with her personally, which is why I chose truth, love, and compassion. I told the truth without being reactive (force) and asked her forgiveness for any misunderstanding. Where we get into trouble with our relationships is through using force, being reactive, getting angry (150) and blaming (180). Force versus force will always be a bad outcome and won’t resolve the conflict.

The Bhagavad Gita is the original Power versus Force, written by my calculations through kinesiology testing, 6,960 years ago! My upcoming talk on January 31st, from 2 to 5 p.m. goes into all of this in a much deeper way. The first part of my lecture will primarily concern the first 11 verses of the Bhagavad Gita – looking at the personalities and relationships of all the people mentioned in those verses. The second part of my presentation will go deeper into the work of Dr. David Hawkins and kinesiology, showing the parallels between his work and the Bhagavad Gita. The third and final portion will be to introduce a very important work, written in the 11th century to bring it all together. A hand-out will be provided at my discussion which will include ten practices you can do to raise your level of consciousness, making you happier in life and giving you skills to navigate all your relationships. It’s not necessary to read my book, Warrior Self or Power versus Force. All you need is a spacious mind and a desire for happiness.

About Ted Cox

Ted Cox- Owner: Now in his third decade of teaching, Ted began teaching professionally in 1982. Ted is the first teacher in the State to be certified with Baron Baptiste, one of the world's master yoga teachers and founder of Baptiste Power Vinyasa Yoga. Ted's classes are fun, challenging and inspiring. All of Ted's classes focus on alignment; the foundation, engagement and celebration of every pose with emphasis on the breath. Ted is a dedicated student of yoga, not only the physical practice of yoga, but especially the timeless wisdom yoga teaches us, how our actions, thoughts and words affect our lives and how important it is to follow our hearts, live our truth and become the authentic people we are meant to be. It is Ted's sincerest desire that the students who attend just one of his yoga classes have an awakening about something they are doing either on or off the mat that will help transform them towards a more beautiful life. Ted’s teachers include Desiree Rumbaugh, Todd Norian, Martin Kirk and Christina Sell. A graduate of the Indiana University School of Music, Ted taught music for 22 years, most recently at the University of Oklahoma from 1993 until 2003. Ted's passion for music continues as he is a long time member of the Oklahoma City Philharmonic, a position he's enjoyed since 1992.

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  1. Mark Galaway
    January 24, 2015 at 1:36 pm #

    Looking forward to your presentation. Thanks for sharing this blog!

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